Top 3 Networking Ice Breakers from

Aside from “What do you do?” how do you approach people at a networking event?

Here are my top 3 ice breakers:

1. Tell them: I love your necklace — or your necktie, earrings, or shoes.

Why? Because it’s important to be aware of what’s going on in the room. We all do this instinctively, of course. But if something about a fellow networker catches my eye, I like to tell them. The reason is simple: I know from experience that if something attracts me to a person at a networking event, odds are good they do something that I want to learn more about.

2. Ask: Is this your first time here?

Why? Because it’s mission critical to be friendly. If I see someone who looks lost, or uncomfortable, I like to approach them — especially if I am feeling the same way. It’s not always easy to walk into a room filled with people you don’t know and sell yourself and your business. Finding people who are slightly uncomfortable, and talking to them in a way that makes them feel more comfortable, tends to be great way to ease the stress of the situation for both of us.

3. Offer: Would you like a glass of wine?

Why? Because it’s essential to be gracious—always. Plus, I always want a glass of wine at a networking event (chardonnay, please). Not only does it open me up to what’s possible, by offering to grab someone a drink from the bar gives you the opportunity to do something kind for a person you don’t know. That’s always a good thing. Plus, it gives you the opportunity to start a conversation when you return with the glass. I have made some amazing contacts using this approach.

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